How often did we get mad in our lives? Countless!!! From my experience I can tell that I get mad a lot, sometimes it brings me into a fight with someone I really don't wanna fight with...Our anger brings us so many troubles so we want to know the key for a happy life without getting angry and regretting about it after. I don't have a key, but I know some small tricks which might help us to really start changing our lives.
1. The best way to fight with our anger is to actually accept that we are angry. Don't try to really fight with it, saying to yourself: I'm not angry, I'm not angry, it will only bring pain to your stomache or head. You must understand one thing: there is no way to change, denying your feelings. First of all we must say hi to them, accept them and only then work with them. Your feelings show you that something is bothering you, you need them, they are your friends, so we should build a better communication with our feelings.
2. Search for a reason inside of yourself. Many times people get mad at others without any reason, at least it seems that way to others. So after you said hi to your anger, ask yourself why you are angry, what's the reason. It will also keep you busy instead of starting a fight right away. Remember, it's never too late to start a fight, but it can be too late to communicate well you are constantly having fight with. I know, it may seem like it's always someone's fault you are angry, and if you want to feel this, I really can do nothing about that, but if you are willing to try something different than letting your anger out, than I'm here with my blog to help you.
3. After you realized the reason, the best way to make it better is to talk to a person you are angry with. You can be open and tell him you are mad at him, because...But you really understand that it's not probably 100% his fault, and you're feeling this way because...For example you got mad at someone's joke, because your parents made the same joke when you were a kid, and you hated it, so now your memories sort of rose again, and this is hurting. You understand that you are probably more mad than you should be, but still this person who hurt you could be more careful next time, but the problem is that he doesn't know this, and the best way for him to know is you telling him your story without starting a fight. If you don't trust this person this much, you can just say: would you please not make this joke again.
4. When someone doesn't stop making fun of you, learn to forgive and forget. Oh, I know it's so easy to tell, but it's way harder to do! To learn to forget others you better first learn to love yourself, learn to support yourself no matter what others tell about you or to you. Those mean comments may still hurt you, but you are stronger than this. Just go cry in your room if you need to, but after wipe your tears away and say to yourself: it's not worth it, not worth crying, not worth getting mad over. Believe me, it will get better pretty soon, and you will laugh about it than, but now you kind of need to look into the future and see yourself smiling!
Always remember, I love you, other people love you, don't waste your time on anger, be the light to this world, and you will see, you will make a difference!!!
Your friend, Anya
1. The best way to fight with our anger is to actually accept that we are angry. Don't try to really fight with it, saying to yourself: I'm not angry, I'm not angry, it will only bring pain to your stomache or head. You must understand one thing: there is no way to change, denying your feelings. First of all we must say hi to them, accept them and only then work with them. Your feelings show you that something is bothering you, you need them, they are your friends, so we should build a better communication with our feelings.
2. Search for a reason inside of yourself. Many times people get mad at others without any reason, at least it seems that way to others. So after you said hi to your anger, ask yourself why you are angry, what's the reason. It will also keep you busy instead of starting a fight right away. Remember, it's never too late to start a fight, but it can be too late to communicate well you are constantly having fight with. I know, it may seem like it's always someone's fault you are angry, and if you want to feel this, I really can do nothing about that, but if you are willing to try something different than letting your anger out, than I'm here with my blog to help you.
3. After you realized the reason, the best way to make it better is to talk to a person you are angry with. You can be open and tell him you are mad at him, because...But you really understand that it's not probably 100% his fault, and you're feeling this way because...For example you got mad at someone's joke, because your parents made the same joke when you were a kid, and you hated it, so now your memories sort of rose again, and this is hurting. You understand that you are probably more mad than you should be, but still this person who hurt you could be more careful next time, but the problem is that he doesn't know this, and the best way for him to know is you telling him your story without starting a fight. If you don't trust this person this much, you can just say: would you please not make this joke again.
4. When someone doesn't stop making fun of you, learn to forgive and forget. Oh, I know it's so easy to tell, but it's way harder to do! To learn to forget others you better first learn to love yourself, learn to support yourself no matter what others tell about you or to you. Those mean comments may still hurt you, but you are stronger than this. Just go cry in your room if you need to, but after wipe your tears away and say to yourself: it's not worth it, not worth crying, not worth getting mad over. Believe me, it will get better pretty soon, and you will laugh about it than, but now you kind of need to look into the future and see yourself smiling!
Always remember, I love you, other people love you, don't waste your time on anger, be the light to this world, and you will see, you will make a difference!!!
Your friend, Anya
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