Happy ToDay: How to be happy during holidays?

Hey, guys, here are some tips that I made for happy holidays. Of course, there can be much more, and I just picked the most important ones for me. 

Holiday season can be a challenge, but do not get discouraged, my dear friends, it is all about your perception. It is up to you how you are going to be in life, and your happiness is in your hands. 

So take care of yourself and your life!

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Love,

Anya

Step out of your comfort zone

Sometimes you need to step out your comfort zone and actually do the first move in order to change your life. Why don't fear and anxiety still there with you? Maybe cos you are holding them pretty tight without letting them go? Sound crazy, but maybe it is the case. Sometimes it happens cos deep inside we feel empty and there are different kind of mixed feelings we are trying to avoid by creating some physical symptoms, to be exact, our body does it! If we ask ourself a question, if I let my fear go what than? Will I be able to go outside, talk to new people and actually enjoy life? The answer will be probably: NO, cos you fear because you are afraid of disappointment, you are afraid of others' opinion about you, you are afraid you are not good enough. And as long as you all those "afraid" you will not actually get rid of your fear! But how can you really stop being afraid of others' opinion by sitting at home? How can you build up confidence if you are just watching "reality" shows on tv where all seems perfect, you compare and you complain! Start changing already now, go ahead of your fear and do anything it takes to go out, if that's something you fear and this is keeping you away from being happy! Learn to love yourself and be confident by knowing other people, by accepting them as they are, by actually sending love, and you will see, it is not that scary at all. The more you practice, the better it will get, I promise. Just, please don't hide, like I did all these years, cos you'll surely regret this time. 

With love,
Your Anya

Few words about betrayal

What I have been thinking about before I filmed my last video was what I could actually speak about in order to help someone, in order to comfort the broken, at least to try... I thought the best was to talk about betrayal, cos it is something it's so hard to overcome by yourself, and it also can be hard to share it with someone even close to you. It is very personal and very painful subject. But I tried to put my thoughts in one video and hope it makes it a bit easier for you to deal with betrayal. Remember, that no matter what happens in your life, it is temporary and it is gonna go, but you have to work on yourself to heal the old wounds. I hope, words I managed to say will help you somehow and make you feel better. 

Always your friend,

Anya

How to feel better when sick, physically and mentally

Fall brings many positive and negative moments into our lives. It happens, that in the cities like mine, fall is really gloomy and at times sad season as I mentioned in my previous post. It can bring some negative emotions, most of them are connected with our physical changes: weather changes, sun does not almost come up, days become colder which lead to lack of vitamins, immune system weakening (which leads to coldness), endorphins are on a lower level than in summer (they are responsible for our feeling of well-being). Forgive my unprofesional description, but you get the point;) 

So it can happen you are left with the coldness and in your bad with a really bad mood, what to do then? 

I guess when this happened to me before, it led to depression as well and made me feel really lonely as I did not have like people to take care about me. And I for sure thought I needed to be taken care of, as I AM sick, sounds familiar? 

1. Don't feel sorry for yourself, it's just a cold, you will get better and get back to normal life faster than you think, so make yourself comfortable with making some ginger tea and watching a good movie in your beloved bed, which is also your closest friend right now:)

I simply use a ginger tea bag, which I always keep at home for times of need, lemon and some honey. You can use only lemon and honey with any other tea, or you can use a fresh ginger as well - up to you, you just need to drink more warm liquids. Create a cozy atmosphere by simply lighting up the candles. 

2. Remember weather changes don't necessarily need to make you the unhappiest person in the world. The more you realize, that your mood changes are connected with the weather to a certain extent, the more you know how to take it easier and how to help yourself overcome depression or just a simple bad mood.

3. If you don't have a cold, you can do some sports which encreases endorphines level but that's and blog post I guess:)

4. Wether feeling sick physically or not, keep it positive, by talking to yourself and giving yourself love, fuel yourself with some positive thoughts. 

Hope this is helpful, 

I hope you get better very very soon, 

Love you,

Anya

p.s. I also have a video about fall depression, so go ahead and check it out!

Forgive everyone who has ever hurt you

I told like too many times that I grew up in the family of 2 drinking guys - my parents, there were also some other people to come over and make this party never stop. My mom used to leave me at home alone a lot, my dad had to work and after work he often got drunk. There were happy moments: like spending time together, going for walks, taking pictures together, playing games, etc. But after all, some bad moments got stuck in my memory much more than the good ones for many many years. Seems like those memories were poisoning my soul: I grew up as a depressed, lonely and unhappy person full of fears and anxiety. It had a lot to deal with my mom's mood that was constantly changing while I was growing up, it was like a roller coaster: one day she loves you, and another day she seems to hate you, and says she wants you to die. You don't know why it is happening when you are a child, and I blamed it on me a lot, I had a huge pity to myself and lacked confidence. All this made me almost hate my parents and constantly repeat those moments in my mind to remind myself how unhappy I was until I decided to say: STOP! When your brain is constantly working on a mode: "I am the unhappiest person in the world" it can be hard to change into something else, as it just become a habitual thinking, and becomes a huge part of your life perception. 

I guess one of the most important things I have done for myself in life was forgiveness of my parents. As I said blaming my parents for all the bad stuff I had in my life was poisoning not only my brain but also my body. I had moments when I wanted to die cos I wanted them to feel pain of losing me in their lives. But at the end of the day, it's you who suffer the most from unforgiveness. You can't be happy cos your mind tells you: I had a bad childhood, noone loves me, my life is always gonna be the same, etc. Unforgiveness can be related with your parents, siblings, friends and so on. Whatever it is, let it go. It is a long hard process, but what helped me a lot was realisation that I wanna do this for myself in order to heal my pain and be happy in life. Noone else is gonna do this for you. And if you wait all life just for people to come to you and say: "I'm sorry for the pain I made you feel", 1st you can wait all your life and still not get it, 2nd even if you get it, you will understand it was not worth it cos you wasted so much time and energy on blaming those people, 3rd no matter what they say or do, you can still have peace already now, and than if they say sorry, you are going to feel better, but don't let your life be dependant on someone saying or doing certain things. Choose transforming your life already now! Let go your past, and concentrate on your present. 

At the end of the day the "blame-game" is only pulling you back!

If you have any questions, please leave a comment below or send me a message,

Remember, I care for you and always will!

Love,

Anya

Awareness - first step to transformation!

When you first realize you don't feel comfortable in your life, you see there is nothing you can do about others or situations you are in, you are slowly starting being aware of your own mental disorder (do not get scared of this name, I am going to use it here cos it is easy:) Although sometimes I am seriously ready to say I have a mental disorder...So, once you are aware, there is something with you that can be changed and the only one who can change it is you, your transformation starts. 

Only you can help yourself feel better. All your reactions can be based on your believe systems that you created through years and years but what you can do is to change those of them that ruin your life and don't let you move on. 

But there is a rule #1 - to be sure there is something in you that needs to be changed and there is 

#2 - you need to want to change it! Once you get those, you solved all your problems by 50%. Be sure 100% this is the truth and don't doubt. There can be times in your life you will doubt yourself, that you can do it, if you can move on, etc. It is important to remind yourself every day you CAN do it, this is your NEW BELIEVE system, and it has to be stuck in your head. 

Check out my new video from TRANSFORMATION SERIES here:

Love,
Anya